My father-in-law loves to share stories and tell jokes. He often surprises me by sharing a joke that relates perfectly to my day without knowing it. Today he insisted on an Alvarez Guedes oldie.
Two couples met after quite some time and immediately start catching up. "What have you been up to?" "How have you been feeling?" "What about your parents?"....
One man asks the other, a father of two, "hey, how are your kids? They must be grown with lives of their own." To which the other replies, "Ugh, my poor son. He's been married for some time but to a lazy woman. She doesn't work, stays home all day and constantly goes out shopping. Meanwhile, my son, who graduated with an engineering degree and makes a pretty decent salary, has to work all day only to have to help with the children while his wife takes a break. It's insulting really, the gull of this woman to squeeze my son in this way but he is in love and allows her to do as she pleases. Can you believe that she has him get her a new car every three years?".
The other man then asks, "but what of your daughter?".
To which the father replies , "My daughter?! Now she struck gold! She married a surgeon who makes a ton of money, doesn't allow for her to work and is constantly spoiling her with gifts and jewels. The guy is head over heels for her. This month he bought her a new Mercedes, it's the third one she's had since they married. My girl is a smart girl.".
The jokes that are best to laugh at are the ones that resonate truth. Often times, the same exact scenario is interpreted in two ways and it doesn't even mean that one is the truth. Why? Because both sides of the story are still presented with prejudice no matter how hard one tries to stay neutral. It's not in our nature or in the way our language and culture was built. There are irrevocable tendencies to one side or another in delivery and reception. These interpretations form the relationships we have with others. Should you chose to have a particular fondness for the person then you are likely to interpret their communications, actions and intentions positively.
The problem lies in those relationships that are strained from the get go and require quite a bit of self reflection to progress. When we fail to recognize the truth of others and their efforts for what they are in reality rather than what we perceive because of our own predispositions, we cast unwarranted judgement and negativity to something that can very well be the same thing we find positive in another. Our current post-election situation is a perfect example. People revere their candidates for reasons they feel to be sound but fail to recognize that those on "the other side" are doing the same. Rather than acknowledge differences of opinions, instill love and understanding and fortify communication, we point the finger at each other with an over zealous need for blame.
This is the part where I am supposed to draw a conclusion based on self reflection and which offers an insightful solution. The only thing I can say is this, don't be a prick because, truth is, what's good for the goose should be good for the gander.