It seems that some weeks, or even months, bring about more sadness than others. This week in Miami has been a particularly rough one. With the tragic loss of Jose Fernandez and his two companions, Eduardo Rivero and Emilio Macias, Miami was left in shock. It is never easy to fathom the death of those gone too soon. Within a day of the tragic news, the community of Hialeah was faced with the loss of a long time political figure and well known Miami business maven, Herman Echevarria. Both incidents confusing and heartbreaking.
It is not enough to say that we should live every moment fully or that we should hold on tight to those we love. It is unfair to simple state there is a lesson to be learned in the face of tragic events or that there are some hidden blessings to be found. Some things are just irrevocably awful with no silver lining. Those four mothers faced with the loss of their boys have every right to delve into the anguish and pain that no one wants to even begin to imagine. Let us honor them by allowing them their pains. Positive words and encouragement as well as memories of a beautiful past are wonderful and help enlighten but too many of us quickly resolve to that and often dismiss the honest truth behind love and loss, it is painful, ugly, dark and it needs to be because there is no reprieve when faced with such tragedies.
"If we could see the fullness of our tomorrows, how many of us would take desperate action to change the future? What if our far seeing showed us the loss of our homes, our families, our very lives, and to save it all we would need only to barter away our most precious souls. Who among us would give up what we cannot see for what we can holding our hands? I believe many of us would peel ourselves away from our immortal selves as easily as the skin from a boiled plum if it meant we could remain on the earth for a while, our bellies full and our beds warm and safe at night." -Kathleen Kent The Heretic's Daughter
Let us live fully, yes but let us also allow room for the pain and suffering of others.