As we prepare for the first serious Hurricane to threaten South Florida in well over a decade, I can't help but realize the correlation between serious storms and co-parenting. See, as a Miamian, we have been raised to expect the worst and hope for the best in almost every situation from walking to your car at night after a fun time on the town, to being hurricane ready. Co-parenting is quite similar. In fact, it is exactly like tracking hurricanes during season.
Starting on June 1st and running all the way through November 30th, Floridians are on pins and needles when the weather channel flashes an advisory. We know the only thing that can pop up on that Doppler during those months is something that affects us. When back to school season comes upon us we half forget the threat and half remember that August-Oct are typically our most threatening times. As seasoned hurricane and tropical storm "survivors", most of us have become a bit cynical about the advisories. Shoot, last season felt like it was sponsored by Home Depot and Walmart with 3 threats and, thankfully, no hits. So when the week kicks off with hurricane talk some tune it out while others become obsessed. I'm one of the "tune it out till school is cancelled" kind. Basically, until I see there is imminent danger, I continue my days as usual. But when it's go time, I go! Fortunately, I am a planner, so storm threat or not, I always have what I need in case of an emergency on hand (this planning is what helped us during our house fire, used a fire extinguisher to try to stop it, had documents and some albums on hand as well as an exit plan that was perfectly executed). When word hits that we are in danger of something big, I don't fret because we are always as ready as anyone can be for catastrophes, sorta like the Griswolds, we roll with the punches and amuse ourselves in the interim.
How does this relate to co-parenting, you must be wondering. Well, I am just as prepared for threats, destruction, change of projected paths, financials, storms that come without warning and even the ones that are perfectly forecasted with my "co-parents". Only those that are faced with a co-parenting situation will understand this so if you do not share children with another family this will be most difficult to comprehend. Much like people who have never experienced an actual hurricane will never understand why the entire county can go into a frenzy in less than half a day. Praying doesn't save you from destruction, preparing only helps you ease the stress a bit but really, nothing can throw a storm off it's course. All there is to do, most of the time, is clean up the shit-feast that is left behind and hope that it doesn't sweep back around and hit you again before you've had enough time to rebuild. It ain't pretty, you can't do much to divert it and people who have never experienced it can't do much with their advice to help avoid it, stop it or get over it. When a category 4 is off the shore line, you just gotta hunker down, arm yourself with provisions and pray that your roof doesn't blow off.